As an animal communicator, I occasionally hear or sense this from our four-legged and other friends.
Usually it’s because their human has asked me to help them understand an upcoming move, addition to the family, or other change. Or maybe he or she has hired me to help sort out a behavioral issue.
The animal understands the situation. He may understand what the human wants. But you’re not seeing the change you hoped for.
“I get it. But I don’t like it.”
So the animal keeps nipping, scorning the litter box, or refusing to load. The problem continues after the vet visit, the session with me, your efforts to help, or all of the above. What on earth can you do?
First of all, understand that I can make your wishes known to your animal, but there is no guarantee she will comply. Compliance isn’t the point anyway.
So back to the “what can you do” part:
Let it be. You want to do something — anything — to resolve this problem yesterday, but remember you’ve already planted the seeds for something better.
Some situations resolve themselves in ways understood only by the animal. The cat decides the new baby isn’t a hairless monster. The horse loads when another person tries. The dog feels better and eats the special diet more readily.
You may choose to do something else tomorrow. Today, let go and see what happens. The animal will feel the change in your energy.
Give the animal a choice. Offer an additional litter box. Try getting the donkey onto the trailer tomorrow rather than force him today. If your dog doesn’t want to be around your boyfriend, let her stay where she feels safe.
Letting the animal choose boosts her confidence in herself and in you. That can only improve your relationship and the situation.
Savor (and reward) the small victories. The new cat and the current cat come within three feet of each other without hissing. The dog stops barking the first time he’s asked. This is great! Pony up (so to speak) with praise, a treat, or a play session
Ask for more help. Your animal may be telling you she needs (if you’ll pardon a tired old job rejection phrase) to move in a different direction. If you are still struggling, I will do my best to refer you to a trainer, organization, business, veterinarian, another practitioner or communicator, or someone else through trusted sources. Or you can ask a trusted friend for referrals. It does take a village.
Similarly, don’t hesitate to (diplomatically) let your veterinarian know that you need some other ideas. He or she is on your side, and on your animal’s side.
Also remember every state has veterinary schools — Purdue, here in Indiana — whose mission it is to help people help animals.
There are ways to bridge the gap between understanding and integrating. As with us humans, it may take patience, creativity, and additional support.